Tuesday, May 05, 2009

My son, Hugo

How do you support your grieving child whose best friend, in a moment of teenage impulsiveness, ended his life? My eyes keep leaking as I think of the three sets of parents in St Albans who have all been bereaved of a teenage child last week. Show the people you love that you do love them – there are no guarantees they’ll always be with you. Be kind to people, life can be unbearably hard. Savour every joyful moment. Be thankful.


Blogger Owen said...

I was in ministry for 20 years. I saw this more often than I wanted. Once would have been too often. I am so sorry for this loss, for all and I will think of Hugo and his friend's families today. {your drawing is beautiful right down to the wrinkles in the socks}.

5/05/2009 4:16 PM  
Blogger Julie Oakley said...

There are no words that can make it better - just time may soften the blow. I am full of admiration for people who have to deal with life and death and tragedy as part of their daily work - I know I don't have the strength to do what they do.

I chose this old drawing in an attempt to evoke the beauty and vulnerability of our teenage children.

5/05/2009 8:28 PM  
Blogger Capt Elaine Magliacane said...

Oh Julie I'm so sorry to hear this.... my very BEST friend in High School, lost her young son this way... we still grieve for Scotty... there is nothing you can say to make this better... it leaves such a hole in everyone's heart to lose a child this way.

5/05/2009 9:05 PM  
Blogger Hashi said...

Julie and Hugo, I send my love out to you both. Thank you for the reminder to always be kind.

5/05/2009 10:25 PM  
Blogger Peceli and Wendy's Blog said...

How tragic and it msut be hard for your teenager son to understand the despair that led someone to end their life. Just talk to your boy about it.

5/06/2009 8:07 AM  
Blogger Felicity said...

I'm so sad to read this, I can't tell you, my sympathies to you and Hugo. My two have talked of it themselves and I talk about it with them. I think bringing out into the open, and accepting it is normal for teenagers to think of it, is the only way (hopefully) to avoid it. Big, big hugs to Hugo.

5/06/2009 8:57 AM  
Blogger Julie Oakley said...

Elaine, Hashi, Wendy and Felicity. Thank you for your kind words. We're doing a lot of talking and giving a lot of hugs.

5/06/2009 6:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oh Julie!

Please give Hugo a huge hug from Auntie Rachel in Hong Kong.


5/06/2009 11:16 PM  
Blogger Penny said...

Oh Julie how awful, I really dont know what to say except that what you are doing is about all any of us could or would do. My love to you all.

5/08/2009 7:24 AM  

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